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January 2025

The Amen Effect: Ancient Wisdom to Mend our Broken Hearts and World by Sharon Brous

Suzanne Shanahan

Leo and Arlene Hawk Executive Director, Institute for Social Concerns

Deeply rooted in the wisdom of the Jewish Tradition, Sharon Brous’s (2024) The Amen Effect: Ancient Wisdom to Mend our Broken Hearts and World is about the simple (though not easy) act of showing up, of being there for others in all of life’s moments. Using her own life experiences as a point of departure, The Amen Effect is both small and short (just under 190 pages) and offers a clear message about the importance of presence. “What I have learned ruing the years, is the meaning of sacred companionship, I have seen, in ways subtle and pronounced, a longing to connect with others who can help hold the pain, a need to share what we have learned in the trenches, and a desire to give, even when we ourselves have barely caught our breadth. And I have seen how knowing that we are not alone can both heighten our joy and help us endure unimaginable hardship” (preface xiii). The message Brous offers is both thoughtful and wise as well as compelling and convincing.

While drawing from Brous’s own rabbinical training and life experience, her message is broadly applicable and resonant with a range of faith traditions. When Brous urges us to work to truly see and understand others, it is consistent with Catholic notions of encounter and accompaniment and even more secular notions of being proximate. Brous notes, “Every gesture of recognition marries love and humility, vulnerability and sacred responsibility.” For this Virtues & Vocations audience it is quite clearly a book about character and virtue using different words. Like so many truly good books there is little here that is revelatory or even novel. But the way Brous marries the theological and the personal puts in bold relief so much we often forget or are too busy or distracted to remember.

One of the powerful messages in the book is about not just the importance of sharing challenges and sorrow but about sharing joy. Good news, a wonderous experience, are almost not real, palpable or articulable until they are shared. “Sharing the good news is both a biological instinct and a spiritual imperative” (13).

A second critical theme that is integrated across the volume is the importance of human connection. Some of the narrative here resonates with post-pandemic concerns about the increasing loneliness in American life. That said, the logic is slightly distinctive in that Brous understands the importance of all forms of human connections. Chapter Three, See No Stranger, takes this notion as its focus. It begins with a John O’Donohue quote about being human. “The sacred duty of being an individual is to gradually learn how to live so as to awaken the eternal within oneself….Each day is a secret story woven around the radiant heart of wonder.” Here, as elsewhere, there is a mystical spirituality that lends a qualitatively different approach to the question of our collective alienation, an approach that invites us to see the magic in every human connection.

In a couple of places, Brous talks about her friendship with Bryan Stevenson—the renowned death penalty lawyer and founder and executive director of the Equal Justice Initiative in Montgomery Alabama.  Here her message echoes Stevenson’s admonition that we need to get proximate to those marginalized (the incarcerated, the unhoused, those experiencing poverty) and their suffering. But is also similar to what Ross Gay has argued about true joy—adult joy—being when two mourning souls come together. There is something deeply human and, indeed, joyous to at once share another’s pain and to have them share yours.

I admit, I am a sucker for books that have a positive hopeful message. But I’m also reflexively critical by nature and allergic to overly saccharine narratives.  Brous is able to find just the right notes, allowing her to strike a wonderful balance in this short but helpful book.

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